Clients come to therapy wanting to change something. Yet, change can be really difficult. You want to change – how do you make it easier to do?

Okay, so we’ve been given a brain akin to a nasty social media algorithm. What do we do about it?

Insomnia - this is a story about the idea of one and done. Getting rid of. The impossible pursuit of “it’s fixed.”

Why does this inner critic exist? What is it doing in your head besides torturing you? We can imagine the inner critic as an over-tuned, too effective part of the threat defense system.

Want to know the secret to having zero anxiety?

Avoidance! Works like a charm. Parties give you anxiety? Don’t go! Anxiety rises when you have to make a phone call? Send an email instead. Afraid of driving on the 401? Wait for a friend to drive you.

Self-care can be problematic for person with perfectionism. Why? First, and perhaps most obvious, your self-care has to be perfect, too…

The two major fallacies of self-care:

(a) Self-care needs a separate time from the rest of the daily grind; and

(b) Self-care is only needed when you are falling apart.