Many women experiencing perimenopausal rage have never identified as “angry people.” They may have been the calm one, the peacemaker, the responsible one, the one who held things together.

So when anger breaks through, it can feel frightening — even shameful.

Perimenopause cuts your reserves at the exact moment that life asks the most of you. Career, kids, aging parents, a share of the household that never got balanced. You ran on this for years with hormonal support. Now that support is fading, and the same demands start to feel impossible.